Updated: Nov 18, 2020
It is desirable to be known by how good we are, what we are best at, the best presentation of self is always plausible, I can not emphasize enough the importance of how we appear before people, just look at our profiles on social networks.
But in doing so we despise our other side, the side that sometimes does not fit the occasion, the side that we desperately hide thinking that it is unnecessary, " I don't want people to see me when I am angry, when I fail, when I have no money, when I am struggling, I want to show them the best version of me possible",
Wait, is this the way life should really be? then how do we shape society if we are always cool with what is going on even when it is not good? why do we always want to please people by leaving them in their comfort zones for the sake of friendship or interests even when things are not okay? why afraid to share useful ideas because you are afraid people will have a negative attitude toward you?
“When we are closed to ideas, what we hear is criticism. When we are open to criticism, what we get is advice.”
― Simon Sinek, Together is Better: A Little Book of Inspiration
I believe friendships are strengthened by honesty, speaking out is handy because then you can come to common terms moving forward, but it also shows how much the friendship is valued and not ready to risk losing it. But friendships are weakened by dishonesty, keeping quiet will hurt both sides and it becomes impossible moving forward together.
I am ready to show when I am not happy, when I am angry, when I am disappointed, when I am lacking, when I am in need, when I doubt, when I am weak and I know for sure it is through showing who we are we can make the society a better place, because when we disagree, we come to common terms that work for all of us and then we can live in peace.
I don't need to be perfect to be accepted, I just need to be me so that I can fit in on all occasions.
There is nothing wrong in giving complement and in saying I am wrong, I don't know, you are right and agreeing to what is positive even when it may compromise your position.
Likewise, there is nothing wrong with respectfully saying, you are wrong, yes I know and disagreeing with the negatives even when they may strengthen your position.
“It's a persons ego that leads them away. So I should say, let your mind be open to those things that affects your ego. Learn how to accept your mistakes and learn how to understand mistakes of others.”
― Jayson Engay
But in all this, one thing is of the utmost importance "The Open Mind", this enables reconciliation which is a major player in living in harmony. A closed mind is almost always a source of conflict, the act of self-defense is buried deep within us, it is for preserving life, nothing is wrong with preserving life, but life can be improved not by abiding by the stagnant ideas but by carefully considering appropriate new ideas.
We are what we believe, we improve not just by holding on to what we know, but also by growing in what we already know through asking questions and evaluating the validity of our ideas through experience and time.
I am not saying that every new thing is to be embraced and every old thing to be discarded but, I am saying, we are intelligent beings, is it not worth trying to evaluate the place where these new ones fit in the old ones? We wouldn't have understood how the universe work if we did not embrace Albert Einstein and his Theory of Relativity just because Newtonian Physics was already well established, but now we use them both, and the advancement in science since then is so evident, and yet we still have a lot more to learn.
An open mind creates crucial challenges that shape the way we think and interpret the environment, improved understanding is a result of seeing the unseen and speaking the unspoken. Remember that information is power, let what you think be known, there no downside to that because even when you are wrong you will be corrected and move on.
By Nicholaus Materu